Racing Alzheimer’s: Mom’s New Year Resolutions

The funny thing is, it didn’t occur to me the Alzheimer’s I’d be racing, would be my mom’s.

New Year Resolutions are like a Bucket List, only with a deadline.  I’ve been writing down resolutions for years now, with some previous goals being to participate in Alzheimer’s research, learn how to meditate, lose 5lbs. (of course!), and last year to run a 10K.

As I thought about my Resolutions this year, I kept going back to my mom who didn’t have any.  I couldn’t help but wonder what her resolutions would be if she had the capacity to understand her short time left.  What would she put on her list?  What would she like to do just one more time?

Since mom couldn’t make New Year Resolutions, I made them for her.   Based on what I know about her, these are the things I think she would like to do this year — one more time.

Mom’s 2013 List:

  • Go to hometown of Wadena, MN to walk down main street and visit old friends
  • Eat buttered macaroni mixed with ketchup, and crumbled bacon
  • Go on a boat ride and fish for Walleye                                                     
  • Walk barefoot along a lake shore
  • Eat a BLT with a homegrown tomato
  • Visit the zoo
  • Drive downtown
  • Play with puppies
  • Watch a softball game at the park
  • Visit Minnehaha Falls
  • Watch the movie “Born Free”
  • Hold a baby
  • Listen to “Hallelujah Chorus” by the Mormom Tabernacle Choir
  • Lay in the grass and watch clouds overhead
  • Sing Christmas Carols

This list looks do-able, but it will take some planning to accomplish everything during the course of my visits home this year.   I may be delusional thinking this is even attainable — mom may not be up for a 3-hour road trip to Wadena, let alone a boat ride — but I’d like to find out.

Alright, let’s be honest.  This list is for me.  Mom would be fine without this list, sticking to her small existence of 3,000 square feet that includes oatmeal, the Price is Right, and a fenced in yard.

But let’s do it anyway!  Let me see the glimpses of joy these things might bring, knowing full well that *poof* they’ll be gone in minutes as if they never happened.  Let me live in the moment with her, and be fully present as she experiences these forgotten things that she loves so much.  Let me witness the little girl she’s become laugh and be carefree.

Let me watch as mom revisits herself and remembers she’s still here.

I’ll take pictures as we go through the list, then someday, if my children ever make such a list for me, I hope they include “Look at photos of Mom and I.”

Adding “Eat Buttered Popcorn” and “Dance to Play That Funky Music” would be appreciated too. : )

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  1. Deb says:

    Ah, beautiful! This disease certainly puts life in perspective ….

    Thank you for this…

  2. Melody says:

    This is just beautiful Joanne. I hope you get to enjoy doing all of these things together. You’ve got me thinking about other things I could do with my dad, too. Thank you.

    • Joanne Leonardis says:

      Thank you Melody. As I look through the list again, I’m thinking this might be a two year plan if the disease allows it because I want this to be about the experience rather than checking things off the list. We need time, but time is running out — so we’ll take it easy and see how far we get. : )

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