My Father

Many of you know that my father passed away on December 17th, 2013 after a very short, two month non-battle with stage IV cancer.  He did not want to go to battle.  At 80, he accepted his illness and lived his last two months the same way he lived his life.  He was stoic, decisive, […]

Mom Update: Her Final Goodbye

My mother’s long goodbye came to an end on Saturday, July 6th at 12:26pm. Thank you for all your love and support. RUTH JOANNE NELSON September 11th, 1937 — July 6th, 2013 **********  A Celebration of Life Thursday July 11th at 11:00 am Living Spirit United Methodist Church 4501 Bloomington Ave. So. Minneapolis, MN  55407

Mom Update: June 2013

What I remember the most from my recent visit with my mother is how she looked.  She has a look to her that’s difficult to describe, but which I’ll never forget.  It’s a shuffling, stooped look combined with an ashen complexion and empty eyes that I can best describe in one word — GONE. Does […]

Mom Update: May 2013

Many of you know my mom has advanced dementia, had a major seizure in April, and has been receiving hospice care ever since.   Hospice has been trying to reduce her restlessness and bring more sleep and calm into mom’s life.  It’s been a trying time during this hit or miss process of adjusting meds, […]

Dear Assisted Living Home

When you told me the other day how my mom is showing signs of agitation, that she resists re-direction, gets into everything, and that she sometimes makes fists and gives dirty looks, I was really thinking — And your point is . . . ? Mom has a brain disease.  She has advanced dementia, Alzheimer’s […]

Yes, Mom Is Ready For Hospice

My family met with hospice yesterday and my mother qualifies for care under the diagnosis of “debility,” also known as failure to thrive.  It’s my understanding that mom didn’t qualify under “dementia” because she can still walk. When you look at my mom you wouldn’t think she’s ready for hospice, but when you put everything […]

Mom Update April 2013: Is It Time For Hospice?

My mother, who has advanced Alzheimer’s disease, had a grand mal seizure last Thursday that left her unconscious and earned her a trip to the hospital.  She’s back home and appears to be recovered, but she’s declining rapidly and we’ve been advised to contact hospice. It’s been suggested that my mom has less than 6 […]

Mom Update: February 2013

There are no mistakes, no coincidences.  All events are blessings, given to us to learn from.  ~   Elisabeth Kubler-Ross “I think your mom has about a year,” is all I remember from my first visit with mom last week.  I didn’t get a chance to ask questions until our Care Meeting on Wednesday, but by […]