My Father

Many of you know that my father passed away on December 17th, 2013 after a very short, two month non-battle with stage IV cancer.  He did not want to go to battle.  At 80, he accepted his illness and lived his last two months the same way he lived his life.  He was stoic, decisive, […]

Dad Update

  Greetings friends and family.  I shared last month that my dad has terminal cancer, and then I sort of left you hanging — so here’s a quick update. Dad continues to decline, but he is one tough guy.  His hospice nurse thought he had “less than a week” over a week ago and he […]

I’ve been playing Scrabble

My son and I went on a mini cross-country trip to Colorado last month.  I wanted to tell you all about it, but I couldn’t find my words or motivation to write.  So I’ll share a tiny bit about our trip, and then tell you why I’ve been quiet. Our trip began on Oct. 2nd […]

Why I Walk to End Alzheimer’s

My grandmother visited me for a week in 1996 when she had moderate dementia.  To ease the burden of having one caregiver, my grandma traveled between her three children’s homes and would stay for up to four months at a time at each place.  My home was a stop-over one year as she went from […]

Mom Update: June 2013

What I remember the most from my recent visit with my mother is how she looked.  She has a look to her that’s difficult to describe, but which I’ll never forget.  It’s a shuffling, stooped look combined with an ashen complexion and empty eyes that I can best describe in one word — GONE. Does […]

Mom Update: May 2013

Many of you know my mom has advanced dementia, had a major seizure in April, and has been receiving hospice care ever since.   Hospice has been trying to reduce her restlessness and bring more sleep and calm into mom’s life.  It’s been a trying time during this hit or miss process of adjusting meds, […]

Graduation Celebration Procrastination

Saturday Allowed to help in dorm room, make small dent. Attend graduation luncheon while Jake’s $900 mountain bike is stolen from his vacant suite. Jake looks for bike and makes unproductive police report. Take advantage of Jake’s unfortunate distraction, make BIG dent. Wonder where I went wrong as I’m engulfed in piles of dirty clothes […]

Yes, Mom Is Ready For Hospice

My family met with hospice yesterday and my mother qualifies for care under the diagnosis of “debility,” also known as failure to thrive.  It’s my understanding that mom didn’t qualify under “dementia” because she can still walk. When you look at my mom you wouldn’t think she’s ready for hospice, but when you put everything […]