The Vanishing

Young mom on bike

The strangest thing about the death of my mother is the vanishing.  That a person can be on this earth one minute and gone the next, seems like a cruel magic trick that I’m still trying to figure out.  As I reflect on her disappearance, I realize the slight of hand happened years ago and […]

Mom Update: Her Final Goodbye

September 11th, 1937  ---  July 6th, 2013

My mother’s long goodbye came to an end on Saturday, July 6th at 12:26pm. Thank you for all your love and support. RUTH JOANNE NELSON September 11th, 1937 — July 6th, 2013 **********  A Celebration of Life Thursday July 11th at 11:00 am Living Spirit United Methodist Church 4501 Bloomington Ave. So. Minneapolis, MN  55407

Mom Update: May 2013

Mom listening a Music Therapist sing some of her favorite songs.  This was beautiful and very emotional.

Many of you know my mom has advanced dementia, had a major seizure in April, and has been receiving hospice care ever since.   Hospice has been trying to reduce her restlessness and bring more sleep and calm into mom’s life.  It’s been a trying time during this hit or miss process of adjusting meds, […]

Dear Assisted Living Home

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When you told me the other day how my mom is showing signs of agitation, that she resists re-direction, gets into everything, and that she sometimes makes fists and gives dirty looks, I was really thinking — And your point is . . . ? Mom has a brain disease.  She has advanced dementia, Alzheimer’s […]

Yes, Mom Is Ready For Hospice

Celebrating mom's 70th birthday in 2007 in northern Minnesota.

My family met with hospice yesterday and my mother qualifies for care under the diagnosis of “debility,” also known as failure to thrive.  It’s my understanding that mom didn’t qualify under “dementia” because she can still walk. When you look at my mom you wouldn’t think she’s ready for hospice, but when you put everything […]

Mom Update April 2013: Is It Time For Hospice?

Taking self-portraits with something that doesn't look like a camera is very confusing for mom.

My mother, who has advanced Alzheimer’s disease, had a grand mal seizure last Thursday that left her unconscious and earned her a trip to the hospital.  She’s back home and appears to be recovered, but she’s declining rapidly and we’ve been advised to contact hospice. It’s been suggested that my mom has less than 6 […]

Mom Update: February 2013

Mom & Dad at her Home   ~   I love how she looks "normal" here.

There are no mistakes, no coincidences.  All events are blessings, given to us to learn from.  ~   Elisabeth Kubler-Ross “I think your mom has about a year,” is all I remember from my first visit with mom last week.  I didn’t get a chance to ask questions until our Care Meeting on Wednesday, but by […]

Ruth Update: So Long Emesis Nemesis

The last time Mom was at my house in May 2010.

Mom has been having what I like to call “tummy trouble” and what mom’s caregivers like to call “emesis” but what is actually, bouts of vomiting since the end of December.  Mom went to the doctor, she had tests, and we were getting nowhere trying to figure out the cause of the tummy trouble.  Finally, […]